Joseline Hernandez Can’t Be Messed With

You can’t compete with a woman like Joseline Hernandez, Love & Hip Hop Atlanta’s breakout star and “Steebie” J’s newest artist. You can’t compete with her and you shouldn’t even try. Women like Joseline Hernandez don’t live by the same rules and accepted mores that govern the rest of us. There is no such thing as taken when it comes to a man they have set their sights on. There are no considerations for family or how their actions may destroy one or altogether impact the lives of those around them. Their morality meter is only tuned to their needs and their needs alone, everyone else be damned.

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With that said, I don’t generally blame or even dislike the Joseline Hernandez’s of the world. Most of the times you can spot these women a mile away and they are often a product of their environments. Joseline’s mom tells how she wouldn’t allow a 13 year old Joseline back in the house unless she bought her money, roughly three hundred dollars on a regular basis. Where did the mom think a 13 year old girl was going to get that type of money? Really?

Also, while lacking the moral fiber many of us expect to be in place, they are often upfront and straightforward with their intentions. Like Joseline said on the Love and Hip Hop Reunion show, she’s only looking for “Dollars and Dick” from Steebie (okay Stevie) and if he wants to continue to rock with Mimi so be it. She even offered for Mimi to join them in the strip club when they were in therapy together. How sweet. So you see, a man can’t say he doesn’t know what he was getting when he has a Joseline in his life.

And that’s the real issue with the Joseline Hernandez’s of the world, it’s not that they exist, it’s that too many men are willing to give them a place and status in their lives. A woman can toss her vajayjay all day long, but if a man isn’t wearing a catcher’s mitt it doesn’t matter. Women too often want to complain of the “homewrecker” when the only person who had a home to wreck was the man who stepped out on his family. And when something like that happens too many women want to go into competition mode, a useless battle if ever there was one. How many times did Mimi try to appeal to Stevie J’s since of “rightness”? She was clearly the better chick. She was the mother of his child. She’d known him for fifteen years. She tried every reason in the book to convince Stevie she was where he needed to be and how did that work out for her?

The reason it was a losing battle before it even began comes down to one word: reciprocity. Most people expect a level of reciprocity in their relationships. Relationships are about give and take, you give a little, he gives a little and everyone gets (most) of their needs met. With Joseline, she worshiped Steebie Stevie J, no reciprocity needed. She jumped when he said jump. Fucked him when (and how) he wanted to be fucked. She called him Daddy in public for goodness sake. There wasn’t a damn thing Mimi could do to compete with the level of ego stroking Joseline was giving Stevie and that Stevie obviously needed. Game. Set. Match. It’s over.

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I guess this is the part where I’m supposed to tell you how you can Joseline proof your relationship. Sorry to tell you…you can’t. The reality is if a woman like Joseline decides to set her sights on your man and you’re dating your own version of Stevie J – Game Over. And let’s be real, most women know when they have a Stevie J. on their hands, that’s why there is so much hate for the Joseline Hernandez’s of the world, they’re afraid their man is gonna be next.

In the end if presented with the option of trying to keep your man in the face of Joseline type competition or letting him go – Let. Him. Go. You’re not going to win. You’re just not. However, you could end up like Mimi, yelling at Stevie J. and Joseine outside of the club after realizing the two had more than a working relationship, telling him if he got in the car with that Bitch then she knew something. How do you think that ended?