Is an Open Marriage Ever Okay?

Open Marriage

Open To An Open Marriage?

So not too long ago Monique’s husband was quoted as saying he didn’t mind if his wife got her sex on with another man:

“We’re saying that if by some chance that you hear scandal and you hear that Mo’Nique slept with another man, it won’t be a need for a press conference because I’m going to say, ‘Why are y’all tripping off that? Because that’s what she did. Did she sleep with that man and you?’ That’s not a deal breaker for myself … We are logical enough to understand that things like this do happen.”

Monique has also been quoted as stating that she has an open marriage and she’s okay with that. Now I know Monique isn’t the best example to use of a person having an open marriage. She isn’t known for her stellar choice in men (first husband was a criminal and illiterate) and her decision to have an open marriage reeks of desperation. You know, the fat girl wants love so she will agree to anything so she can have this slim, half-way attractive man.

So the question is, is an open marriage ever okay?

A while back Will Smith made a comment along the lines of him and Jada not breaking up should someone dip out as long as it was something that was talked about first. That simple comment sent the black blogs ablazin’ as folk who don’t know Will and Jada from Adam and Eve were in a tither at the mere idea that the two might have a marital arrangement outside of the norm or what folk would consider acceptable.

I’ve never quite understood why people get all up in arms over what consenting adults decide to do in their relationships. I’m of the opinion that as long as the two parties involved are completely okay with the arrangement then it isn’t any concern of mine. People have the right to set the terms of their relationships without approval from the masses.

So once again I ask: is an open marriage ever okay? Why or why not? And could you see yourself agreeing to such terms in a relationship?

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7 thoughts on “Is an Open Marriage Ever Okay?”

  1. “consenting adults”

    Shrugs. If you like it, I love it. One of the negatives of the connectivity of the world though is that you get to hear the whole world’s opinion about what you do. If you can take the heat, do what you do.

    1. I have to say that all might be taking the term open marriage out of context. As a happily married woman my husband and I have an open marriage. Open in the sense that if he or I for some reason decide to be with other people we will talk about it first.

      We have had our issues and have split up. Not divorce but left each other and the realtionship. During this time apart we were involved with other people. We agree not to share the full details of the others but we are not stupid. We know what we have done and what we haven’t. However, the most important part of this is that we discussed it first.

      I wanted some lovin he wanted to place a stipulation on the reciept of that lovin. I didn’t agree to the stipulation and informed him that if he wouldn’t I would find someone who would. NO JOKE! He was informed, no secrets were kept and we are still married today. Happily and lovin like rabbits. That was then, this is now and we know that should that time come again we know what to expect.

      Grow up people. Would you rather know he/she is fucking someone else or find out when you catch them going into the motel parking lot. She with Ricky, you with Tasha and your at the same motel…………

  2. Well Jada and Will have been together for a while. It was a statement made on Inside Edition this pass week that Jada stated in a magazine article that her and Will keep variety in their life like having sex in different locations and have date night as strangers and complete other little fantasies such as pulling over on the side of the road and have sex. What a lucky girl. Sounds like a its working for them. Personally if I wanted to sleep with others I would stay single, why even get married.

  3. I do not agree with the “open marriage” concept. It undermines the institution of marriage, hell you might as well not BE married, just be together with an open relationship. People seem to forget that getting married is not just making a commitment to each other, but to God as well.

  4. It says in the bible that anything a married couple does in they’re bed is blessed….if its consentual in the relationship….I say go for it.

  5. Damojo, The bible actually says,in Hebrews 13:4, Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

    So, with that being said,if two people are in an “open marriage” wouldn’t you think that they would STILL be adulterers and whoremongers whether they both consent to that or not?

    The bible also says in 1 Corinthians chapter 7 verse 2, “Nevertheless,to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.” It does NOT say lets get married and still share ourselves with whomever we want at that time.

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