Shoe Porn: Louis Vuitton Beaded Fringe Artifice Ankle-Strap Sandals

These Louis Vuitton beauties scare me a bit. Satin, with 4.4 inches, with a padded insock and a leather sole, this shoe isn’t really higher than any of the other shoes we profile, but something about them makes me think I’d go tumbling over the moment I attempted to walk in them..

The beads are beaded by hand into what LV calls a “zebra-stripe pattern,” fitting the rest of their safari theme currently. There appears to be a teeny bit of zebra on the beads so I guess that’s how they are tying these sandals into their safari theme. Wild heels are what they have right now, just like the zebra printed heels we showcased a while back.

Shoe Porn: Camilla Skovgaard Ankle Boots

Camilla Skovgaard shoes consistently put out affordable, stylish luxury footwear. She has yet to put out  a ho-hum collection since she debuted her signature collection in 2007.  We expect greatness from the icons like Louboutin or Zanotti, but other designers are known to disappoint from time to time, but not Camilla Skovgaard.

These designer shoes are simple, yet eye-catching thanks to the designer’s signature rubber saw plateau, the boots are utterly sexy with their 5-inch heel, and the nude color will transition well from summer to fall. They are leather with a clear, rubber sole to prevent slipping. The platform is 1 inch so it will feel like a 4 inch heel. $620 Available here.

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Shoe Porn: Brian Atwood Strappy Sandals

Not quite as high as we like them round these part, however these 4 inch Brian Atwood sandals make us feel downright dainty.  The iridescent pink and dainty straps make them ultra feminine and the secure ankle strap and modest heel make them perfect for dancing, ir just looking extra pretty for a night out on the town.

These Brian Atwood’s are rose toned glitter sandals with skinny straps and partial mesh inserts. There is a crystal-embellished buckle on the ankle strap. They have a rounded cap, a peep-toe and a leather sole and in-sole.  They are $849.

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Six Reasons Most Black Women Will Never Marry

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Why Black Women Wil Never Marry

So many people have opinions on why black women aren’t getting married and usually it focuses on some version of black women need to stop being loud, prudish, god digging bitches who don’t understand what men want and expect their degrees to make them desirable mates.

The reality is the truth is a lot more simple and less “controversial” than most mainstream articles would let you believe. Black women have the power to have the lives and the men they want, it’s just a matter of changing from a victim mentality to a proactive one. We are desirable women, and it’s high time we start acting like it.

1. You’re Waiting for God to Bring You a Man

If I hear one more black woman say, “Oh I’m just waiting on the Lord to bring me a man” I will pimp slap the shit out of her. Did you wait on the Lord to bring you that degree you’re so proud of? No? So why do think it’s the Lord’s job to bring you a man? I know women who are “waiting on the Lord;” to bring them a man, they are also 50-plus, perpetually single and haven’t had sex in over 20 years.

If you’re serious about finding a husband then you have to treat it like you would finding a job. The Lord is not some cosmic UPS man who specializes in husband delivery. Once upon a time in the black community moms, grandmoms, aunties and married cousin would set out to find a suitable spouse for their unmarried relatives. Many cultures still do this, we don’t and because of that it is now up to you to take the bull by the horns and find your husband. Seriously, if all you’re doing is going to work (or school), going home and going to church what makes you think you’re ever going to find a man to date let alone marry?

2. You Think Relationships are Fairytales

Disney is the devil. They watered down the Grimm’s Fairytales and turned into simple, sanitized tales on love, romance and marriage that have been screwing up women for generations. The reality is there is a reason fairytales end at “Happily Ever After.” The reality of marriage isn’t all rainbows, sunshine, and shooting stars and that’s okay. Too many women have these lists of what the perfect man will look like and won’t even think about “settling,” even if it means passing up a perfectly good man.

So in your 20’s you won’t settle, in your 30’s you may decide one kid is okay and in your 40’s you’re just hoping he’s single and has a head full of hair. Instead of finding the right man for you, you spend your time looking for a man that doesn’t even exist and as you age decide to settle for whatever man you can get. So let me go ahead and burst your bubble: Mr. Perfect doesn’t exist, but Mr. Perfect for you just might. However if you’re to stuck on an arbitrary list of “must haves” you just may miss him. As cliche as it has become that 80/20 rule is real. Learn it. Accept it. And find a man who fits it.

3. You’re Too I.N.D.E.P.E.N.D.E.N.T.

Yes I get it. You got your own house. You got your own car. Two jobs, work hard, you a bad broad. Got it. But newsflash: No one cares. A truly independent woman doesn’t go around waving that ish like a flag. A real independent woman knows she doesn’t need a man, but is honest about the fact that she wants one. She understands that she needs or at the very least wants a man to fulfill those soft needs: companionship, love, support. She’s not running around shouting how she doesn’t need no man. She knows only insecure women do that. Unfortunately too many black women have been hollering that they don’t need a man for so long that the men might actually believe you.

4. You’re Desperate

Desperation is not pretty or desirable and men can smell it a mile away. Yes having a marriage and family may be important to you, but it can’t be your sole focus in life. Desperation also leaves you open to making bad man decisions and being taken advantage of. And I don’t care how fine you are there aren’t too many men who are going to want to deal with you if before you even know their last name you’re planning the wedding and deciding on baby names. Relax. If you put in the work and be patient your Mr. Right for You will come along and you really will be able to live happily ever after.

5. You’re Too Busy With Mr. Right Now

Yes I understand Mr. Ten Inch Penis is a professional back breaker, but sexing hm isn’t going to help you find a husband. As a matter of fact sexing him will be a major distraction in your quest to find a husband. Instead of being out on a date your in for the night with Mr. Ten Inch Penis. If you manage to make it out on a date, you’re thinking about how you’re going to call Mr. Ten Inch Penis when you get home. If you meet a nice guy out and about you’re wondering if he’s going to be as great in bed as Mr. Ten Inch Penis. See the problem?

When you’re the market for a husband, your casual sex days should be over. You should save the goodies for the men you are in a committed monogamous relationship with that is leading toward marriage. And yes I recognize some folk can sex Mr. Ten Inch Penis and still manage to find a husband. But just like some folk can study with the tv on and still get an A, it’s the exception not the rule. It’s also not about being prudish, it’s just that good sex is a distraction. Good sex will have you keep a man around well past his expiration date. So instead of dating and vetting the men you meet to see if they are good husband material, you get caught up with Mr. Ten Inch Penis, getting your back broke on a regular basis, only to wake up six months later with a yeast infection and a hurt back looking at him at like “I don’t even like your ass.”

6. You Don’t Know When to Let Go

And this one is the biggie. You have to know when to let a man go, and it’s much easier to do this at the beginning of a relationship then at the end. Too many women are holding on to men who have made it abundantly clear they have no intention of marrying them. Contrary to popular belief wearing a man down is not a marriage strategy. It is a fool’s strategy though. Wasting all of your best years on a man in hopes that he will realize you’re a “down ass bitch” and he should go ahead and put a ring on it? Yeah. I’ll pass.

A secure woman doesn’t need a man to validate her worth. She knows she’s worthy and is deserving of a man who recognizes that as well. She’s not going to waste her time on a man who demonstrates early that his values aren’t aligned with hers. Nor will she spend time with a man who doesn’t even think enough of her to put a title on it, let alone a ring. Keep it moving. At the end of the day it is much easier to find a man who wants to marry you then trying to convince one who doesn’t that he should.

Women Proposing to Men: An Act of Desperation or Empowerment? (Video)

Women Proposing to Men: Yea or Nay?

Is it ever okay for a woman to propose to a man?

I’m generally against women proposing to men. Most of the time when women do the proposing it’s an act of desperation. They’ve been with a man for umpteen-fifty-million years wanting desperately for him to propose and when he doesn’t and she realizes she’s getting older and her eggs are drying up she decides to propose under the guise of “getting what she wants.”

If a woman who proposes to a man was really trying to get what she wants, she would have proposed after a year or two of being in strong, stable, successful relationship where marriage has been discussed and is expected. That’s proposing from a position of power.

I still don’t think it’s something I’d recommend or would do myself, I am a little old school in some of my beliefs. But under those circumstances, a woman is well within her right to go after what she wants. If he says no, well that’s life, but you don’t look like a fool because of it and he very well could say yes, just ask Pink how well it worked out for her.

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Shoe Porn: Louis Vuitton’s Wildly Playful Zebra Heels

Oh My Louis Vuitton! This is such a departure from your other shoes, I don’t even know what to say! I’m surprised these even made it to a drawing board, let alone past one! Tiger-colored zebra shoes? My Goodness! When did Louis get so funky?

The zebras feature 4.4-inch heels, pretty little Strass crystals, Strass-encrusted buckle accessories, leather soles, padded insocks, and fabrics including suede and silk. These are featured on the website, but they are not for sale online. But if you can afford $1,540 zebra shoes from Louis Vuitton, take a visit to the LV boutique on 57th street, where they are available.

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Collections: Fendi Shoes Fall 2011

Generally I like Karl Largerfield’s design aesthetic. However the Fall 2011 RTW collection for Fendi leaves a lot to be desired. Lagerfeld was inspired by the painter Dadaist: a buttoned-up-to-the-neck art teacher who was wild only with her art. Her style was strict but lived-in, and she wore Mary Janes with woolen tights bagged slightly at the knee. Translation: Dowdy, and thats what I think about the shoes in this collection.

There is nothing flattering about these shoes. The chunky heel makes them schoolgirl-ish, awkward and makes your legs look thicker.  However, they are much better than the low heeled, androgynous, oxfords that seem to be the “in” thing for Fall this year.

 

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Should Women Expect Men to Cheat?

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Are Men Hardwired to Cheat

So last week Tyrese was on the Wendy Williams Show and the topic relationships, men, and cheating came up. And Tyrese had plenty to say on the subject. According to him “It’s expected of men to cheat:”

“I don’t have all the answers, but I can say that most mothers raised their daughters to believe that if you cook, clean, thoroughly take care of your man and go all out for your man, that should keep him home. Unfortunately that’s not the truth, but I will say to my daughter when she gets old and starts dating is, if you end up being cheated on, don’t own the cheat. Don’t make the cheat yours. It’s something in that skirt and those legs and whatever the case may be, and [he] decided to dip off. Does he see the value in his woman at home? Yes, but if he ends up dipping off, that spaghetti couldn’t keep him at home.”

However Tyrese wasn’t so understanding when Wendy asked him if he’d be so forgiving if his woman cheated on him:

“No way. See, it’s expected of men to cheat, even though all men don’t cheat. I can’t just generalize and say all men cheat, but it’s expected because it’s a part of our upbringing[…]no listen if your in high school or in college, if one dude has sex with ten different women he is a hero, he’s the champion of the campus. If one woman has sex with ten different guys, they’re all kind of things in the book right?[…]Its just a part of what instilled in us growing up.”

Right.

Now I could go into a long diatribe about the age old double standard that black men in particular like to hold on to. The adherence to patriarchy in a community that can ill afford to hold on to such antiquated notions and the high rate of out of wedlock births, low rate of marriage and high rate of sexually transmitted diseases that this sort of attitude fosters. But I won’t.

Instead, I will point out that as women it’s high time we stop worrying about what men are “expected” to do and concern ourselves with what we want and need out of our relationships. The main problem for black women isn’t that there is sub-culture within our community that encourages this behavior, it’s that we somehow believe we have to accept it.

Newsflash: if you don’t want to deal with a cheating man you don’t have to. The adage that “all men cheat” is bullshit and a cop out that lets men off the hook for their bad behavior and makes women perpetual victims. Believe it or not, there are women who draw the line in the sand at cheating and don’t allow for any discussion of “see what happened was…” once the cheating has occurred. Just ask Lisa Bonet who let Lenny Kravitz go when she found out he was screwing around on tour. There was no amount of begging, pleading, cajoling, and song writing that would bring her back. And they were married. And he’s Lenny Kravitz. I mean…Lenny Kravitz

Yet so many sistas running around here keeping men who are screwing anything that moves, they’re not even official girlfriends let alone wives and these dudes are definitely NOT Lenny Kravitz. These relationships are temporary at best and women are trying to figure out whether they should keep Tyrone after they’ve found out he’s slept with Tisha, Cindy and Mai Ling. Enough is enough already.

It’s high time women stop crying, whining and complaining about the trifling ass men in their lives and simply cut them loose. Why all this drama over men who will be in your life for a few months to two years, max. Brothers don’t’ do that. Like Tyrese said, a woman caught cheating is reason enough for immediate dismissal. It’s time black women take a page out of black men’s playbook.

So no, the question isn’t should women expect men to cheat, it’s should we put up with cheating once it happens. And the answer is simply: HELL NO! On to the next. All men don’t cheat, so stop spending your time with the ones who do.

Shoe Porn: Christian Louboutin Luxura 140 Pumps

Christian Louboutin shoes are hypnotic. They completely make you forget you are spending as much on a pair of shoes as some folk spend on their mortgage. Those red soles just get you every time. e The Christian Louboutin Luxor pumps aren’t any different.

These designer shoes are beige suede pumps with taupe toned leather ankle strap and shimmering metallic snake skin covered heel and platform. They have gun metal stud trim and a dark metal toned side buckle closure on the ankle strap. They have a rounded cap, leather upper, in-sole, and Louboutin signature red sole. $905 Available here

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Shoe Porn: Giuseppe Zanotti Mirrored Sandals

A nude sandal is your best friend come summer time.  They make your legs look longer and look great when paired with anything from a nice pair of tailored shorts to a short party dress. These Giuseppe Zanotti sandals have a tonal metallic plate on the front for a little eye catching shine. His Spring/Summer shoes have been uber sex, especially this shiny sandal  in a nude that’s gorgeous for spring and a style that transitions to evening with ease.

These Giuseppe Zanotti shoes are nude colored leather with metallic palte in a wide T-Strap style.  They also come in silver and gold.  The heel is a nice 4.5 inches. They are $895 and are available here.

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