Top 5 Signs You’re Not His (Only) Woman

Cheating On You

Five Signs He’s Cheating On You

Many women I know or have known claim they have a man or that someone they’re seeing really cares about them , but when you hear the details of their “relationship” you realize that it’s no relationship at all but an extended booty call. She’s making time with a guy when she is definitely NOT the only chick and more than like not even the main chick.

1. He only calls you after 11pm

Let’s face it, if he can’t call you doing normal business hours, you are not his woman. If the only time he can pick up the phone (or text) you is doing standard booty call hours you have to ask yourself who he’s calling when he’s not calling you.

2. The only time he calls is when he wants sex

Regardless of the hour of day he’s calling, if the only time he calls is when he’s looking for a little bedroom action, well he may like your lady parts but he definitely doesn’t like you.

3. You haven’t met any of his friends and family

If a guy is really into a chick he’s going to (eventually) introduce her to friends and family. At the very least his friends and family will be aware that you exist. If you’ve never met anyone who is close to him, there is a good reason why and it’s not one that’s good for you.

4. He never takes you out

If the only thing he wants to do is hang out at the house and he never takes you out or attempts to take you out, there’s a reason for that. Believe me if he’s not taking you out, there’s a good chance that he ‘s out with someone else. And even if he’s not dating someone else, his unwillingness to take you out is a good sign that he hasn’t any real interest in you. You are definitely not his woman.

5. You don’t know how he spends his time when he’s not with you

If you’re clueless about how he spends his time when he’s not with you, then you don’t know him and if you don’t know him, you’re not his woman. If you ask him, “what did you do today,” and his answers are always vague, well just assume he was doing things (or spending time with someone) he doesn’t want you to know about. And if that is the case…well…you’re better off finding another man ’cause the one you have isn’t yours



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13 thoughts on “Top 5 Signs You’re Not His (Only) Woman”

  1. I understand where you are coming from Brown Sugar. But what about when the brother works with computers 15 hours a day. Often my sister does not know what is going on because she has no childhood experience with people who work like that! So she and her tricycle-riding “friends” have to “guess” what is going on… and one or two of her “friends” might know how much money is at stake and want to be a little destructive and vindictive…Is my wrench a little to complicated?

  2. I dig what you’re saying but what about the supposed wifey/main chick who hears from him at regular hours, has met his friends and family, gets taken out, etc. yet is still being cheated on? How’s she supposed to know? That’s a list I’d like to read = )

  3. I totally agree with your post. High five as usual. However, what about the guy who is doing everything right, calling during the day, you have met his friends, you are super close, didn’t give up the panties until months in…..but you find out he is cheating and wonder how did he pull it off?? Ain’t that many hours in the day….lol Also check my blog (not you lol but other folks)

  4. If someone is going through all that he’s not just ‘not into you’ he just doesn’t give a hot dayum about you… at all.

  5. yeah im with jennifer these are obvious signs that he isnt your but like she siad what about if none of these signs describe him and you still think he is with someone else

  6. That list sounds accurate to me, and it’s amazingly common. This is the kind of guy that’s good for one thing only, and if he’s really good at that, this ain’t a bad thing. For women who can deal with it, the booty call beats a vibrator or sexual starvation while waiting for a “real” boyfriend.

  7. This sound like boyfriend/girlfriend level here. And on this boyfriend/girlfriend level, I think it should be multiple choices and I think the other party should be briefed upfront they ain’t the only one and they can compete or step off if they got a problem with that. You won’t get hired at a job quickly unless the new job thinking they stealing you from someone else. You won’t sell an item quickly unless you got customers thinking someone else is going to snatch up the good deal. And in relationships, your boyfriend/girlfriend ain’t going to get serious until they see you are in demand and can be happy with whatever. Trust me, they step up real fast once they got briefed.

  8. These are the signs that you are the jump off and does not mean there is another woman just means you are not “the” woman. But at this point you should no your role and play your position, getting upset about it is immature.

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