While sometimes our hormones can get the better of our common sense, it’s always best to try and keep a cool head when the object of our desire is readily available. While waiting may not always be what you want to do, here are 5 reasons why you shouldn’t sleep with him…yet.
1. You’re Drunk – A lot of things (and people) look better with a little alcohol in your system. And let’s be real, drunk sex can be great, but there’s a difference between being pleasantly tipsy and sloppy drunk. Too much alcohol also lowers the inhibitions so you may do things you wouldn’t normally do, like having sex without a condom which could leave you open to pregnancy and STD’s.
2. Morning After Regret – Casual sex isn’t for everybody. What seemed like a great idea the night before can look like a waking nightmare the next morning. You don’t want to have regrets about someone you’ve just had sex with, so maybe it’s just better to take your time and make sure he’s who you want to be naked with and that it is more than just a casual lay.
3. You’re the Rebound Girl – Yes you’re really into dude, but he’s just gotten out of a relationship. Sorry to say it, but you may be the rebound girl. Sure he seems really into you now, but give it a few months when he realizes what he really needs is some time to himself. If he’s just let one woman go (or was dumped himself) it’s best to just wait awhile and make sure he’s over the other woman before ya’ll hop in the sack…Don’t Stop Now
Sex in a relationship is a lot like the US at the UN – even if the rest of the relationship is great, if the sex is bad then there is no deal. I’ve heard many women argue that you can have a great relationship even if you’re not setting the bedroom on fire. I say those women must not know what good sex is really like.
There are a lot of things I may compromise on in a relationship: age, looks, height…but sex…that’s way too important an aspect of any relationship to settle for anything but the best. Some may argue that it’s possible to teach an old dog new tricks so to speak, but I don’t want to be in the teaching business. It’s one thing to teach you what pleases me, it’s another to have to teach you the basics.
I personally know of a few couples who are basically in sexless marriages and no, I’m not talking about couples who have been married for twenty+ years (not like that’s an excuse), but young recently married couples who are all perfectly healthy. It’s a situation I can’t even fathom and with money and sex being the number 1 and number 2 reasons for divorce in this country it’s not a situation I think those couples will be living for much longer.
Bad sex (or no sex) is just not an option. While no one is suggesting cheating is okay, if you’re not doing your part in the bedroom it is a surefire way to send someone out the door permanently or into someone else’s arm. Someone once asked me if everything else was perfect in a relationship and the sex was bad…would I stay? My response was simple: Hell No. In that scenario the relationship wouldn’t be perfect and we’d be better off as friends. If we ain’t lighting up the sheets, we can’t do much of anything else either.
